Divorce often creates a specific kind of financial shock: you are expected to make high stakes choices while you are grieving, angry, or simply overwhelmed. Divorce financial planning starts by slowing the moment down and replacing guesswork with proof. A Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) or CPA can help you move from “I have no idea what we have” to a clear snapshot of your marital estate. That snapshot becomes your compass in mediation, settlement talks, and the months right after separation when cash flow matters more than long term investing. The goal is not to turn you into an accountant overnight, but to give you enough clarity to protect your housing, your credit, and your future stability.
A strong reset begins with building a marital balance sheet: everything you own and everything you owe. That means gathering financial documents such as tax returns, pay stubs, bank statements, credit card statements, mortgage details, and retirement account records. When one spouse handled the finances during a long marriage, this step is also emotional, because it forces a new reality: the person you trusted most is now a legal opponent. Still, the balance sheet is a practical tool. It shows what is available to divide, what debts must be addressed, and what “fair” may actually look like after fees, timing, and taxes are considered.
Next comes the divorce budget, built from real spending rather than hope. One practical method is to take 12 to 24 months of statements from the household operating account and categorize transactions into simple buckets like housing, utilities, food, fuel, insurance, medical, kids’ costs, and personal spending. This creates a historic monthly burn rate and reveals “silent” expenses people forget, from pet care to co pays. With that baseline, you can model post divorce scenarios: keeping the home versus renting, changing childcare costs, and adjusting transportation and insurance. The numbers also support discussions about child support and spousal support, which often rely on formulas and documented income.
Some of the biggest mistakes happen when assets that look equal are not equal in the real world. Dividing investments or retirement accounts without understanding taxes can quietly destroy value. For example, stock with a low cost basis can carry large capital gains tax, meaning two accounts with the same market value may have very different after tax value. Retirement accounts add another layer: different rules, different penalties, and specialized transfer requirements. Complex compensation like vesting bonus plans may include a marital portion even if the money has not been paid yet, and forensic accounting can help identify dissipation, such as marital funds spent on an affair, so those amounts can be added back to the marital estate.
Finally, a good plan includes post divorce implementation, not just a signature on a judgment. Many people need coaching on basics like online banking, bill pay, transfers, and setting up a payment schedule, especially if they were not previously involved. Credit cards are a common pressure point: spending on credit can hide true monthly costs and trigger a spiral if payments are not baked into the cash budget. The best outcome is empowerment. When you understand your income, expenses, and options, you can make businesslike decisions, protect your credit, and replace fear with a workable financial game plan for the next chapter.
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Lewis Irwin Landerholm
Founding Partner
Lewis Landerholm realized the importance of family and justice from a very young age. With grandparents in the legal field, a mother in education and a father who was a domestic violence counselor, Lewis was raised by a family dedicated to helping people. His role models taught Lewis that the world is a complicated place where education and a helping hand could make all the difference.
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